Prostate massage or prostate milking is the massage or stimulation of the male prostate gland for sexual stimulation, often in order to reach orgasm. The prostate is sometimes referred to as the “male G-spot”. Some men can achieve orgasm solely through stimulation of the prostate gland, such as prostate massage or receptive anal intercourse, and men who report the sensation of prostate stimulation often give descriptions similar to females’ accounts of G-spot stimulation. Prostate stimulation can produce stronger and more powerful orgasms than solely penile stimulation.
Prostate massage may also be a common sexual practice in couples’ sexual lives. The advent of equipment and products for prostate massage encourages people to try it. Many couples though do not purchase such devices but use a finger for anal penetration and prostate stimulation to enhance the man’s orgasm. The finger or the prostate massager is introduced into the rectum through the anus and the prostate gland is gently massaged. The main problem in using the finger is that it may be too short to reach the prostate gland. Prostate massage can be performed individually or with the help of a partner. Some men prefer being anally stimulated by their partner during foreplay or after their main form of sexual activity.
There are safety matters relating to prostate stimulation and anal penetration. It is strongly recommended that plenty of lubricant is used with prostate massagers to prevent rectal lining damage. A smaller instrument or finger may be introduced gradually to minimize the discomfort that some may feel. Massagers may be used with or without a condom; however, because of the bacteria found in the rectum, if a condom is not used, it is very important to clean the tool with antibacterial soap before use in another orifice or by a partner. Receiving anal stimulation may cause feelings of having to go to the bathroom. More often than not, this is just a “feeling” that the stimulation causes and may take some getting used to.
Male Multiple Orgasm (MMO)
Most of us know that women can have “multiple orgasms.” Sustained stimulation of the vagina or clitoris, either manual, oral, or through intercourse, can sometimes bring on successive orgasms, often of growing intensity.
We also know that men can’t really do this, because after ejaculation there is a “refractory” period when our erection subsides. Some guys can have a couple in a row, if they keep it up right through the refractory period. But, for the most part, we have to wait a while and start over. We’d be psyched if we had a handful of orgasms over a few hours.
In fact, men can also have multiple successive orgasms. This is called Male Multiple Orgasm (MMO). The key is to have an orgasm without ejaculating. This seems like a crazy idea: orgasm and ejaculation are the same thing! But actually, they are not. Men can have “dry” or “non-ejaculatory” orgasms. These are not ejaculatory orgasms where in the last second the semen is halted. There is no ejaculatory reflex at all. Typically, your penis is left entirely unstimulated.
Not only can men have successive non-ejaculatory orgasms, but those orgasms can be extremely intense — more intense than your good old ejaculation. Some men may remember (or look forward to) a time when they had “the most intense orgasm of my life.” Exceptionally strong ejaculatory orgasms may involve loud involuntary vocalizations and an overwhelming feeling of pleasure. Non-ejaculatory orgasms commonly have an intensity in that range. What’s more, you can have a massive chain reaction of them for a half-hour, hour, or more.
Tantric training wheels
MMO has its roots in ancient Eastern practices like tantra and tao (see Aneros History). The Aneros, though originally conceived to help men manage prostate health, turns out to be very effective in accelerating the process of learning this skill. For that reason, one of the Aneros forum’s luminaries has coined the term “tantric training wheels” for the Aneros. There are other ways to learn and practice MMO (see Advanced Skills), but the Aneros is among the most effective. Once you have “crossed over” to dry orgasms, it is likely you will be able to have them even without the Aneros.
How It Works
The Aneros Company produces a patented line of hands-free prostate stimulators. The action of the device upon insertion is highly pleasurable for the user. Many users also report enhanced orgasm through the use of this device. The Aneros is a solid piece of high-tech plastic that is moved entirely by the muscles in your pelvic floor, primarily your anal sphincter. These muscles are naturally active during sexual stimulation and orgasm (their contractions are a necessary component of your experience of sexual pleasure). The Aneros exploits this automatic muscular activity to provide stimulation of many of your most sexually sensitive areas. The pulsing of the muscles causes the Aneros to press and pivot on your perineum and to rub your prostate, anus and rectum. When things really click, this rubbing and contracting become involuntary (they take off by themselves, as if your parts down there are intent on pleasuring themselves), and the pleasure mounts. As the “involuntaries” continue, the pleasure can lead to an orgasm or to an ongoing series of orgasms. The key to using the Aneros is in inducing involuntaries. While it happens spontaneously in some guys, for most it is a learned biofeedback skill and may take training.
What It Does
The Aneros gently stimulates your prostate, perineum, rectum and anus creating deep pleasure probably unlike what you have felt before. As you get more excited the Aneros responds by providing more stimulation (as a result of your muscles’ activity). The motion of the Aneros ranges from very subtle, where you aren’t sure it is moving, to perceptible small distance stroking to large bold strokes that feel like receptive intercourse. All have their own distinct flavor of pleasure.
The Aneros also significantly improves partnered sex. Your erections will be stronger, your ability to control your orgasms will be significantly improved, and your general sensuousness will increase.
What It Feels Like
Aneros pleasure typically feels bigger, warmer, sweeter and more encompassing than that felt from penis stimulation. The sense of excitement you feel might remind you of “first sex” feelings. The pleasure can spread to large parts of the body, and can cause the large muscles of the abdomen and limbs to contract and shake. When the pleasure increases men often find themselves vocalizing involuntarily.
The orgasm that results from this kind of stimulation is non-ejaculatory. This does not mean an ejaculation in which the semen is withheld in the last second. It means orgasm without the ejaculatory reflex, like a female orgasm. Because you don’t ejaculate, you don’t have a refractory period. Just like women, you can continue to have multiple orgasms. The orgasms might be felt in different parts of your body, such as your prostate (“prostate orgasm”), rectum and anus (“anal orgasm”), penis, buttocks, abdomen, legs, etc., or your whole body.
Men find that their ability to get pleasure from the Aneros increases with use. The ultimate is the super-O in which the orgasms involve the whole body, last much longer than a typical orgasm, run into each other in succession and can put you in an altered state of consciousness.
Why It Works
The prostate, perineum, and anal sphincter hold important roles in sexual orgasms and may have further roles not yet fully known. The Aneros stimulates all three of these erogenous zones. The important nerves that control the sexual organs, including those controlling erection, orgasm, and ejaculation, converge at the prostate and the perineum area. For this reason, prostate and perineum massage have been effective means for healthier and enhanced sexual functions since ancient times. Classic sexual tomes such as the Kama Sutra expound upon the sexual potential hidden within this area. For most men, this area has never before been directly stimulated in a way to trigger orgasms. The nerves located here are deep within the body – an untapped source of sexual pleasure.
The Aneros simultaneously massages the prostate, the juncture point of the left and right ampulla of vases and seminal vesicles, and the acupressure point of the perineum. The nerves at the seminal vesicle and the ampulla of vas lead to and through the testicles, and the perineum region is an innervation bridge to the nerves distributed to penis and the scrotum. Thus, the Aneros enables stimulation of all internal and external organs at the same time both directly and indirectly.
Ordinarily when the brain is stimulated either physically (external sexual organ stimulation) or spiritually (emotionally or mentally) it sends trigger signals to the nerves responsible for orgasm. It is believed that the Aneros releases those nerves from control by the brain and directly stimulates them, eliminating the secondary pathway through the brain. Furthermore, when this new method is combined with spiritual stimulation, the orgasm is intensified.
The anal sphincter also plays an important role in sexual orgasm. The anal sphincter contracts and relaxes repeatedly during orgasm. Without these anal contractions, orgasms would be diluted and less climactic. With stronger anal contractions, more intense orgasms can be achieved. This is because the nerves that branch out to the anal and the rectal area are also distributed throughout the external sex organs. Voluntary contraction and relaxation of the anal sphincter during use of the Aneros strengthens and tones the PC muscles. This is the basis of Kegel Exercises, established in aiding problems of the lower tracts such as urinary incontinence, impotence and premature ejaculation. Toning that results from use of the Aneros not only sensitizes and activates the nerves within this area, but also strengthens the muscles to increase the massage pressure applied to the prostate and perineum.
Choosing a Model
Despite differences in height, weight and other physical characteristics, the location of the prostate gland is the same in approximately 98% of all men, being 2 to 3 inches inside the anus. By having an insertion length of approximately four inches, the Aneros compensates for differences in physical dimensions. Unfortunately, there are no definitive rules for deciding upon which massager is best for any given individual. People of all sizes and shapes from all over the world have used the Aneros, and preferences vary. If a general trend can be identified, the SGX has become more popular in the Asian (primarily Japanese) market because of the shorter insertion length, 3.5 inches, while reviews are inconclusive among other populations. If you haven’t already purchased an Aneros you can find some helpful guidance from the Aneros Selection Guide. You might also like to read what the forum members think in the polls “Which Aneros model is best for new users?” and “What is your favorite Aneros?” before making a purchase decision. For additional information and reviews, you may wish to read the Aneros Products Reviewed.